Duckling inflated

My poor duckling is totally inflated and swollen. Probably a weak lung sac thst got punctured due to weak "lung walls" that is leaking air into its tiny body.
Looking Michelin. I'm so worried. Instructed by advice from the net vet we made a little hole in its neck and got some air out. Today the air is all back so we are off to the vet!

Foire St Michel in Bernex 2016

Bernex or not? Moody H... Que sera.
Foire St Michel.
"La Démontagnée" - the cows coming down from the mountains for autumn/winter.

Duckling dip

Daredevil duckling dips itself into the pond the minute I check something inside the Boathouse. So I guess there is hope!
H calls it "Steve-O" from the Jackass gang...

Normal?

So in love with sweet killing Morticia Addams. Tells the tale what I become... watched it as a kid. Howcould Ine different ;)

Ho'opono'pono

Four Steps of Ho'opono'pono

Responsibility & Acceptance: Only you are responsible for how you feel, what you're thinking, judging, projecting or experiencing in the world. By taking responsibility for your experience, you are owning it and therefore taking back your power to transform it! Accepting what is, moves you forward to the next step.

Forgiveness & Reconciliation: When you choose to forgive and reconcile what you've perceived to be wrong, we remove the illusion of separation and come into the heart of compassion. Forgiveness is a journey from the wound to the words thank you. To truly forgive is to set ourselves free from that which we've been resenting or holding onto. When we project our blame, guilt or anger onto something or someone, the thing we hurt most is our Self.

Gratitude: Gratitude for the challenge is the result of having truly forgiven. Sometimes it can be a journey to get here. Ultimately it starts with a choice and the choice is to find the blessings and gift in this current challenge, person or situation.

Love: Love is the result of having moved through this process fully and completely. When you can look at your challenge and feel unconditional love for it, you know you have completely healed and let go.
(Text by Brad Morris).

Peace day

It's the International Peace day, September 21st. So where white and strive to be at peaceand visualise it spreading...

Butterflied caiman

Photographer Mark Cowan shot, travelling through the Amazon, a caiman wearing a crown of butterflies.

Rami Malek - Mr. Robot

Rami Malek, the lead actor in Mr. Robot received an emmy for "Outstanding Lead Actor in a Drama Series". Playing "Elliot Alderson".

Rami Malek,
Taurus,
May 12th, 1981.

Dubious logos

Well, one thing is clear the artists/designers behind logos don't seem to have dirty minds... Or is it something subconscious in a Freudian way in interpreting signs? Rest my case.

Fantastic fascinating looking animals

Amazing, aren't they? Animals sure beat humans in beauty and craziness.

Duckling weather

My little duckling loves the rain.

Kill them

Trying to figure out how to cope with the French delivery system...

Crashed mail box

Oops, someone crashed into our mail box... Can't open it!

7 ways to handle bullying

In life and by coaching people I often hear about people being harassed at work, at school... even among "friends". Today as someone rather close to me will retire from work and one of the major reasons is her/his work collegue's and the boss' behaviour I want to help anyone out there with the same problem. Any of the seven ways can be applied whenever a kind of bullying is going on.
I found these good advices on forbes.com. Stay strong!


"If you’ve got a lousy boss right now you have my sympathy. Truly. It can really siphon the enjoyment from what might otherwise be a rewarding role, leave you feeling undervalued, and wondering whether you should begin searching for something new. But before you start planning an exit strategy, it would be wise to rethink how you can better manage the boss you already have –for all their flaws and shortcomings.

New research has found that being overworked is not the reason people leave their jobs. A Danish study of 4,500 public service workers has provided credence to the adage that “people don’t leave jobs, they leave managers .” According to psychologist Matias Brødsgaard Grynderup, one of the researchers behind the study, “We may have a tendency to associate depression and stress with work pressure and workload; however, our study shows that the workload actually has no effect on workplace depression.”

However fixed in their ways your boss may be, you can always learn ways to better manage him or her. The secret is to “manage up” without them ever realizing you are doing it. So rather than think of your boss as your boss, think of them as a difficult client – one you have to figure out how to work with if you want to get ahead, even if you’d rather not.

1. Know their ‘Why’: Identify prime motivations.
The better you understand what your boss does, and more importantly, why, the better positioned you are to deliver results, manage expectations, and avoid lose:lose situations. Try to put yourself in their shoes and see the world, and your workplace, as they might.
What does he care about?
What keeps him up at night?
What would he love more of and what would he love less of on a daily basis?
What frightens him?
How much importance does he place on impressing others?
How does he measure success and what does he think about failure?
When you know what drives your boss (even if your boss may not be fully conscious of it), you can speak to “his listening,” frame your opinions and use language in ways that line up with his core values, concerns and priorities.

2. Support their success: Work around their weaknesses.
While it may sound counter intuitive to support a bad boss in becoming more successful, there is absolutely nothing to be gained by making him look bad, going to war or facilitating his (or her) failure. If he is as bad as you think, he will likely do a pretty good job of that all by himself. Exposing his incompetence will only compound your own misery and may even damage your reputation.
One way is to help your boss focus on his natural strengths. Another is to proactively work around his weaknesses. If you know you have a boss who’s disorganized, then help him to be on top of things rather than whining about his lack of organizational skills. If you know your boss is often late to meetings, offer to kick off the next meeting for him. If he tends to change his mind frequently, or is outright forgetful, be sure to document interactions so you can refer back to them if he ever contradicts himself. If you know your boss is slow to respond, continue to work on a project while you wait to hear back from him. Making yourself indispensable and someone your boss can rely on to help him do his job is a valuable asset when you start to look to ‘what’s next?’
By doing what you can to help your boss succeed, you lay a solid foundation for greater success yourself. It may not be an immediate reward, but in the long run, you can never lose by helping others do better than they otherwise would.

3. Take the high road: Your “Personal Brand” is riding on it.
Never let your boss’s bad behavior be an excuse for your own. All too often, people start feeling entitled to slack off, take longer and longer lunches, lose interest or stop performing well because of their bad boss. Don’t do it. Keep your mind focused on top performance. Complain to your spouse or your friends all you want, but when in the office or workplace, stay upbeat and engaged. Actually handling a difficult boss well can really set you apart. You never know who is watching or listening but be assured, people who can open or close future opportunities for you are doing just that!
While it may be easy to succumb to resentment or resignation and mentally check out of your job, doing so not only undermines your own integrity but it can put you at risk of being branded as whiner, a slacker, or both. So if your boss is a shouter, don’t react by shouting back. If they are petty or small minded, don’t descend to smallness yourself (however tempting!) Rather maintain a calm and professional demeanour in dealing with your difficult boss. As Gandhi wrote “Be the change you want to see in the world.” In this case, act like the leader you wish your boss was.
If you feel you’ve run out of options for dealing with him reasonably, then don’t go rumor-mongering or bad-mouthing him to everyone within earshot. That will ultimately say more about you than it does about your boss (and not things you’d want said!) Rather, follow proper procedures for registering complaints with Human Resources or with higher-level superiors, documenting each step of the way.

4. Speak up: Give your boss a chance to respond.
Early into my career, I left a good job with a global consulting firm because I had a lousy boss and a toxic work environment. Upon leaving, the HR lead – a senior partner at this organization – asked to meet with me to find out why I was leaving. I shared how undervalued I had felt, how the promises made to me upon employment had not been met and how little accountability there was for my colleagues. He was surprised and disturbed and asked if there was anything he could do to make me change my mind. Apparently I’d been ear-marked a hi-po (which would have been nice to have known before then!), but by this point it was too late. I’d already made other plans, hoping for a better work environment, and a better boss.
The lesson for me was this: h ave the courage to speak up rather than cower in silence for fear of an awkward conversation . The truth is that I’d been too cowardly to address my concerns with my boss or to go around her. Admittedly I was young (mid-twenties) and inexperienced, but if I knew then what I do now, it would have been that I owed it to myself, and to my boss at the time, to have at least voiced my concerns, offered up some possible solutions and engaged in a conversation about how we could have improved the situation. It may not have changed a thing, but at least I could have known that I at least gave her a chance.
So just because it may be easier to say nothing, to just ‘suffer quietly’ or complain loudly to colleagues or to head for the exit as I ultimately did, you at least owe your boss the opportunity to respond. Don’t prejudge and assume they aren’t able to take feedback, or don’t care how miserable you are. When you approach them with respect and with a genuine desire to make things work better, you can open the door to whole new levels of trust, collaboration and outcomes. A door that will remain permanently closed otherwise.

5. Know their preferences: Adapt to them.
Observe your boss’s behavioral style, preferences and pet peeves. Is he fast-paced and quick to make decisions? Is he slow to think about things, needing time to process information? How does he like to communicate – via e-mail, in person drop-ins, or lengthy memos? The more you can match your style to your boss’s style when communicating, the more he will really hear what you’re saying.
If you’ve ever done any personality assessments such as Myers-Briggs or DISC, then see if your boss has as well and find out what they are. It can help you adapt your style and spare a lot of strain. Working with his preferences is an obvious way of managing your boss without his ever knowing it, and it’s a key leadership skill to develop regardless of the kind of boss you are working for.

6. Don’t be intimidated by a bully: Stand tall, never cower!
People who bully get their power from those who respond by cowering and showing fear . If your boss is a yeller, a criticizer, or a judge – stand firm. If you’re doing the best job you can do, keep your head held high and don’t give him the satisfaction of pushing you about. Rather ask questions, seek to understand, and work to defuse a difficult situation instead of cowering or responding in anger. It takes practice, but over time you will get better at it and he will look elsewhere for his power kick.
If you feel compelled to call your boss on his behavior, go ahead but do so with a cool head and prepare in advance for the ensuing fallout. It could get ugly so think things through beforehand. What are your options? Who are your allies? Have you documented his behavior? Can you deal with the possibility of the worst outcome? Sure, it’s important to stand strong, but be smart about it. As I wrote in Stop Playing Safe, “Sometimes you have to go out on a limb and do something where the risks are high. But before you climb out, be sure you’ve managed the risks as best you can and set up a safety net should you fall.”

7. Be Proactive: Do your research before jumping ship.
Of course the best way to manage a bad boss is not to have one in the first place. So whenever you are looking to move into a new role in the same company or move to another organization all together, invest some time to get a sense of the culture, the leadership and the sort of management practices that are tolerated and supported. If you are moving internally, make sure you do your networking ahead of time to get a sense of both the environment within the team you might be moving to, and those who are creating it. Are they leaders who create an environment where people are inspired and supported to work hard, or do they incite fear about what will happen if people don’t?"
(From forbes.com.)

Surf girl

My sporty daughter, Anaïs, is at a surf camp this week on one of the Canary islands, Fuerteventura. Fun, fun, fun and boot camp training.

Laid back

Lazing on my arm or into my brown soft quilt on a Saturday night. My one and only little duckling.

Greatness

"Power does not mean greatness.
Greatness lies in the use of any power you may have to help, encourage and foster greatness in others."

Karma instantly, please!

Return to sender. When you are a good person with a pure soul you never have to fear nor worry about karma. Others ought to shiver, though.
Can't guarantee the spell above works nor that you get the front seat watching but believe me instant karma works!

Wolf dogs

Wolf dogs are so beautiful. Charlie Brown dares me.

Ducklings

The two duckling survivors born April 29th are more or less grown ups today.
Checked for books about "canards"/ducks at the library but beside books for kids they had nada.
I have ordered three books from amazon.co.uk though and hope they will enlighten me when it comes to the little duckling's respiratory problems.

Fortunate

14th anniversary

14 years ago. Seems like yesterday. H ignores as always. I remember. Male versus female?
Sunny day though. Took the bus together to Evian. H has a mouth herpes again. (Amazing during all these years I haven't caught it. Knock on wood.) Blames nagging Y at work for it blooming on his under lip.
I enjoyed aqua bike at the Thermes for José with 13 others at 9.15 A.M. So we had some time before for: H a coffee and I a false Bloody Mary at Brummels.
The place, Brummels, has changed slightly since we owned it in 2007/2008. Bad bad memories.
I cuddled the duckling (who's breathing problems have increased) and watched an old Hitchcock movie "Mr and Mrs. Smith", a comedy from 1941, with beautiful Carole Lombard who tragedly died in a plane crash one year later at the age of 33.

Did a salad for H that waited for him when he returned after some training after lunch. At home H mowed the lawn. H had taken the afternoon off to visit the property lawyer to check if he will be the sole beneficiary when he sells Le Samovar now that "Lucifer", his 92 year old mother, is moving to a flat in town Sept. 15th.
As H is retiring entirely from work Sept. 30th I suppose he is eager to get some more money to secure himself.

Oops! H got annoyed entering upstairs in the Boathouse wanting to iron in the sleeping room. I firmly asked H to iron in the "kaki" room (where the board for ironing is kept) instead of risk awakening the little duckling I just had managed to fall asleep. H still put on the light so I turned it off again. H got furious and yelled: "shut up"(I didn't talk), "fuck you", stating he was quitting the Boathouse if the bird had more rights than he has?!, claiming I was totally preventing him to iron and rushed down the yellow stairs with the board & iron to the old chalet where he said he will receed from now on.

Talk about a shitty wedding anniversary!

I am happy at heart though. Real friends and my kids + the little duckling beat all those bad vibes from evil people.
In H case he is under a lot of pressure at work and turns into a hurt little boy thinking nobody cares about him or that everybody is against him. Not really in sync, in harmony with his body and soul.

Sweatheart

Sweatheart, you make me smile...

Everybody knows

If you find true love treasure and maintain it!

Beauty

Beauty in the eye of the beholder... Let's vote for that!

#AllWomanProject

#AllWomanProject. Even models can get tired of being retouched.

Long live natural inner beauty that shines through every woman/man's eyes and makes each and every one of us (female and male) uniquely beautiful just the way we are with all our perfect imperfections.




All of me - John Legend

What would I do without your smart mouth?
Drawing me in, and you kicking me out
You've got my head spinning, no kidding, I can't pin you down
What's going on in that beautiful mind
I'm on your magical mystery ride
And I'm so dizzy, don't know what hit me, but I'll be alright

[Pre-Chorus:]
My head's under water
But I'm breathing fine
You're crazy and I'm out of my mind

[Chorus:]
'Cause all of me
Loves all of you
Love your curves and all your edges
All your perfect imperfections
Give your all to me
I'll give my all to you
You're my end and my beginning
Even when I lose I'm winning
'Cause I give you all of me
And you give me all of you, oh oh

[Verse 2:]
How many times do I have to tell you
Even when you're crying you're beautiful too
The world is beating you down, I'm around through every mood
You're my downfall, you're my muse
My worst distraction, my rhythm and blues
I can't stop singing, it's ringing, in my head for you

[Pre-Chorus:]
My head's under water
But I'm breathing fine
You're crazy and I'm out of my mind

[Chorus:]
'Cause all of me
Loves all of you
Love your curves and all your edges
All your perfect imperfections
Give your all to me
I'll give my all to you
You're my end and my beginning
Even when I lose I'm winning
'Cause I give you all of me
And you give me all of you, oh oh

[Bridge:]
Give me all of you
Cards on the table, we're both showing hearts
Risking it all, though it's hard

[Chorus:]
'Cause all of me
Loves all of you
Love your curves and all your edges
All your perfect imperfections
Give your all to me
I'll give my all to you
You're my end and my beginning
Even when I lose I'm winning
'Cause I give you all of me
And you give me all of you

I give you all of me
And you give me all of you, oh oh

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