◦    "Snake" is a good example. This sulking bitter middle-aged man  (who once wished he was the "Lizard King" - Jim Morrison in the Doors)  always complaining has a power over Hängpatte that is devastating. After seeing "Snake" more or less daily these last months Hängpatte behaves like an obstinate toddler.  He is rude, moody and uncomprahenceable. Becoming more and more evil and spiteful after each rendez-vous.

Janus, the twofaced Greek God.

◦    "Snake" is a 52 year old teacher. He believes that the kids of the last generations are born soulless. Not surprisingly he has been suspended for hitting pupils and he, as the majority of the French population it seems, walks around on "happy pills".

"Snake" is awaiting doomsday oozing negativity and condemnation. Hängpatte sucks it all in like a brainless pupil. I become the enemy and the one he can mistreat. My belief in love is a laugh. As I'm a woman and from a foreign country (whom he didn't help: - to settle in France  - to stand by when his ex's called and hanged up when I answered the phone and it went on for years! -  when Lucifer and his brother Imbecile were mean and spread lies about me -when I tried to get a French citizenship - to get rid off my expensive flat in Sweden that still eats up my salary...).

◦    Back to "Snake",  he has Mediterranean ancestors and had as commonly there a very strong bond to his late mother who also gave  a little love and care to Hängpatte. (Lucifer, his own mother, is a cold piece of skinny meat.) "Snake" blames Hängpatte, though,  for not being grateful enough and visiting his mother at hospital more than he did before she returned to her home country some years ago. He can't bury and forget. He blames hängpatte and nurtures a huge grudge in silence.

◦    Today when "Snake" snaps his fingers my husband obeys as a faithful little cadet. He might comment "Snake" as being tedious by describing in detail his last weekly run... but he listens to his commands and he is ON time. If he doesn't give "Snake" attention he may be ignored for years. "Snake"'s ex didn't like Hängpatte's lack of  loyalty so she advised "Snake" to not stay in touch with him which he didn't during seven years until last year after his ex by accident fell down a mountain and died.  "Snake" and Hängpatte have tied up tightly again like two "old farts"/faggots spreading acid but acclaiming themselves.

◦    Their motto could be "grumpiness as a right". They trash and blame all brainy females for their own shortcomings. Their dream is a nearly underaged bimbo who will give them oral sex constantly at their whim and who, at the same time, is a housewife that cleans, cooks and most of all: SHUTS UP.

◦    The irony and what I can't stand nor understand is what "Snake" is  telling me about their relation and about Hängpatte as a person. He says  that Hängpatte is barely "an acquaintance" not a friend. He finds him a coward which he states that everyone in town knows he is... He also claims that Hängpatte has "kinky" taste in sex??? , (without being explicit),  that he is "vide" empty inside and that I am naive hoping for any kind of recognition or loyalty... I might just be a female but I don't get it - why then mingle at all???

◦    I'm astonished and can't grasp this coming from someone who has known Hängpatte for about 40 years! They grew up together, went to University... Of course "Snake" has a right to his opinion but how can he then call nearly each day, urging to meet, to go hiking, running, taking coffee etc etc several times a week???  And then stating  he is merely an "acquaintance"?!

◦    Hängpatte is nowadays more married to "Snake" than me. My mere existence annoys him and having my muse visiting seems to infuriate him. He doesn't watch me the few times we talk, if I ask anything he either ignores my question or ridicules it or me. Whatever I do - from hanging my coat on a hanger to my choice of shoes, to what I eat or how I place a book - is wrong and angers him. If we go anywhere he is 10 steps ahead and showing no connection to me whatsoever, waiting for my muse at the airport he drove me in silence (45 minutes), then disappeared for half an hour and appeared while we waited by the parked car, he doesn't introduce me to friends he meets... And believe me  I have done absolutely nothing to deserve this bad treatment.

◦    Back to "Snake" and this French friends issue. Honestly, I would NEVER EVER (I know the strategy to win is to keep your enemies close but still... is it really "winning"?) waste time on insincere friends. I am all or nothing. I love and respect my friends with their fantastic flows & flaws, personalities and uniquenesses. I would never betray them or grade them. Nor mingle with those who belittled me, who spread negative and pessimistic views... I find such contacts poisonous and meaningless. So I avoid them. Life is too short to waste on shallow crap.

◦    Warmth, compassion, love, good vibes and laughter.
Lightness and care are essential necessities in real FRIENDSHIP.